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Amy posted the questions this week over at http://www.titus2atthewell.com

What is your definition of friendship? My definition of friendship is the mutual support, companionship, love, trust, commitment, and devotion of a two way relationship.

Did you follow the belief that we should not be friends with our children? Has that changed? Being friends with our children was not the primary focus when we were raising them, our son's are now 25 and 24. Our focus was on providing for their basic needs, and bringing them up in a safe, Christian, loving environment. Often we would have to make unpopular decisions, but those decisions were always in their best interest. When our son's became adults, that is when the relationship changed, no longer were we in "charge" of them, we could relax from declaring to them what decisions they should make, or what their boundaries were. They still ask our advice, and we still advice in as few words as possible, being as honest as possible. We are now able to have more of a friendship relationship.

In what ways can we befriend our husbands and children? We can befriend our husbands and children by lifting them up not only in prayer, but in words that stir them to stay the course, we should be approachable and their greatest advocate.

What can we do to teach those skills to someone else? We can teach those skills by mentoring those that the Lord brings into our life. We can also find the ministry that the Lord has been teaching and grooming us for by our life experiences. Our life struggles and experiences have not happened to us only for our own molding of character, but to be a witness and a mentor to others.

"A friend loves at all times," Proverbs 17:17a

"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer that a brother." Proverbs 18:24

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one that this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything I learned from my Father I have made known to you." John 15:12-15

Comments

LAURIE said…
Thank you for joining us over AT THE WELL today, I couldn't agree with you more about the differences in our roles as parents. When the kids were younger, it was all about discipline and taking care and now that my kids are older I very much enjoy just spending time with them. Thanks for sharing!
Yolanda said…
Oh, AMEN AND AMEN to this part of your post:

We can befriend our husbands and children by lifting them up not only in prayer, but in words that stir them to stay the course, we should be approachable and their greatest advocate.


Thank you Sister! Blessings, Yolanda
Rebecca said…
I like that you said you give advice in as few words as possible and as honest as possible. Another tip to file away for when my kids get older.
Amy Bayliss said…
This was beautiful...
"We can befriend our husbands and children by lifting them up not only in prayer, but in words that stir them to stay the course, we should be approachable and their greatest advocate."

Well said. Very well said.